The Leadership Qualities and Distinctions Leaders Most Seek to Develop

In working with leaders, a consistent pattern emerges: the qualities they most want to develop are not simply skills that can be learned intellectually. They are distinctions of being. These qualities become the foundation for clarity, confidence, and influence. When they take root, everything else grows more naturally.

Here are the ten leadership outcomes most often named in coaching:

1. Emotional Regulation
2. Confidence
3. Strategic Thinking
4. Clarity and Concise Communication
5. Grace Under Pressure
6. Executive Presence
7. Team Motivation
8. Delegation
9. Managing Up
10. Difficult Conversations

Many of these cannot be obtained by a training regimen, a book, or a video. They require awareness, insight, and practice to embody. This is where coaching enters. Coaching creates the shift from knowing to seeing differently. As Julio Olalla, one of the pioneers of ontological coaching, reminds us: seeing with new eyes shapes not just what you do, but who you become.

When a leader learns to regulate emotions, build confidence, or think strategically, they don’t just add a skill, they become someone new.

Source Distinctions

All ten qualities can be traced back to deeper source distinctions, ways of being that give rise to everything else. You might think of these as the roots that nourish the visible branches of leadership.

1. Centeredness – Both a practice and a state of being. Centeredness steadies the nervous system, quiets reactivity, and creates the ground for presence.
2. Executive Presence – Often described as confidence and credibility made visible. But true executive presence depends on the ability to be fully present with others.
3. Emotional Regulation – At the core of emotional intelligence. The capacity to manage emotions with awareness and composure implies a calm, centered, and present mind.